Articles and books abound about team leadership. If the amount of people talking and writing about leading in teams is any indication about the numbers of people actually doing it, then hardly anyone is leading alone! Somehow I doubt that is the case. Collaborative leadership is something that sounds good, it feels like something that fits with what we want to believe is true, but actually doing it is hard work. In fact, some days it feels impossible, like the universe conspires against it and the very people you are working with have different ideas about what this is supposed to look like. Like many difficult things — 21 hours of labor, starting an exercise program, or raising teenagers — it is worth the effort. And like other hard things, it is not something we ever master. There are always more lessons to learn.
Two years ago, when we reorganized and expanded our school leadership team to include more voices and additional perspectives, I naively believed that we were now practicing team leadership. It was true, in the sense that we did have a team. But getting 11 very diverse people from different countries, backgrounds, and personality types together, especially when they all have strong opinions about — well — everything, I realized what a challenging adventure we were embarking on. This was easier said than done!
We had a team…and that may be about as far as team leadership goes in many settings. We were all quickly learning that forming teams does not mean collaboration is really taking place; rather it’s only the first step toward effective team leadership. Our first meetings involved a lot of talking over each other, arguing, engaging in some productive discussion, but then not necessarily following through as we hoped to. As a result, some days I ended up feeling inadequate and even hurt. I place a high value on harmony and unity, so those days when it seemed we were heading in as many different directions as people on the team were exhausting. Would we survive as a team?
The thing we had going for us though, was that these 11 people all had a deep love for the school and an unflagging commitment to doing what was best in order for us to achieve our mission to “equip students to serve Japan and the world for Christ.” I am beyond grateful to have a team who teaches me every day what it means to embody collaboration. Who takes me to the limits of my own leadership capacity, but helps me go a little further than I thought I could go. Who patiently believe in this crazy dream. Along the way, we are learning a few principles that are helping mark the path we are traveling.
1) We commit to building trust by really learning to know each other. This means spending time not only talking about policy and preparing for initiatives, but also learning about what motivates us, what has hurt us, what is going on in our families, what brings us joy. We take time to talk, to laugh, and in our case, to pray together about more than school.
2) We honor each other’s differences, while being committed to the unifying mission. It’s like the tale about the blind men and the elephant. Someone has to be the one in touch with the elephant’s hind end, and more often than not, that feels like me. But someone has to understand each part of that elephant and this unique perspective impacts various roles we play. Still, it’s the whole body that unites us. Keeping the focus is hard work. We have to remind each other often why we are here and what is truly important.
3) We assume good motives from each other. Have each other’s backs. Each of us comes to leadership by a different path, and our unique strength will also mean we have equally unique weaknesses. When someone makes a mistake, we can’t assume they have it in for us or that they are evil and must destroyed. We take the time to learn the back-story and help tell the story to others when that might be necessary. It also means sometimes being willing to confront each other, but with grace and forgiveness. I’m still working on that one.
4) We decide on the guiding principles for any decisions or policies being created. It’s easy to create a list of rules, but then there are exceptions, opinions, individual experiences and interpretations, and it’s so easy to get mired in a swamp of increasingly specific regulations that the team begins to lose focus. If we identify the guiding principles that we will target and that provide the rationale for what we want to accomplish, then the decision or policy becomes clearer and more attainable. Not easy, but clearer.
5) We focus on the core, but don’t stop there. Empower others to replicate team leadership at all levels. If collaboration is only occurring in the leadership team meetings, it’s not really collaborative leadership. We need to empower other leaders to lead at every level of school operations. We are responsible to not only listen to each other, but to allow others to use their voices and to lead with their own teams, so collaboration becomes a 3-dimensional, living, breathing, whirling organism, not a flat, fixed, multi-tiered organizational chart.
Team leadership is hard. Even the metaphor of “team” brings different models to mind. I like basketball, and even in the NBA playoffs, we have examples of different kinds of teams. The ones most fun for me to watch are the teams where the bench is deep and all the starters are scoring in double-digits, not the teams where a superstar carries the others on his back. Let me be specific: I don’t like the Cavs.
I am no superstar, and I would far prefer being part of a team where each member is fully empowered to rebound, defend, assist, and score. Where the whole body of the elephant lumbers beautifully along. Where each leader looks to the needs of each other and to the needs of others we work with, functioning as a healthy, vibrant, collaborative community.
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PS: I’m working together with one of my colleagues from our leadership team on a presentation about collaborative leadership for an education conference. If you have any suggestions or questions, or if you want to share positive or negative experiences, please comment.